Column: Dating the bad boy
Relationship happiness stems from picking the right guy…
Julia Halpin | Editor Intern
Nothing too serious or fancy, just a casual relationship where he listens to my insight and loves me unconditionally. Like I said, nothing too serious.
For those of you who opted out of reading assigned books your junior year or for any underclassmen, my dream boy is the narrator of the infamous “Catcher in the Rye.” He’s mysterious, confused, rebellious, and overall, the epitome of the bad boy.
And I want to date him.
Girls seem to like that cliché “bad boy” aspect that some males posess. Holden’s got that going for him. He persuades a bartenders to serve him alcohol, though he’s just 16, he gets kicked out of schools, runs away to hotels, talks to prostitutes; he is entirely “bad.” Yes, I know he might not be good for me, but that’s irrelevant. I can fix him. With a healthy dose of my optimistic attitude, Holden will be out of juvenile delinquency and on to a promising life where he can use that sophisticated and intelligent mind of his for the greater good. Oh, the potential he has.
While I would love to embark on this romantic escapade with him, Holden is fictional. He is only a figure in my mind made up to be someone I could date. The sad thing is, girls in high school seem to have this same “I will fix you” attitude when finding real boys to date during their teenage years.
The “bad boy” stereotype is intriguing; I get that. But let’s face it ladies, how likely is it that our bad boy will change just because we’re around? Continually, teenage girls seem to come up with this sad idea that even if we know a guy is bad for us, we can still have a relationship with him in hopes that he’ll become our Prince Charming. The cliché leather-jacket-and-motorcycle characteristics portrayed in movies like “Freaky Friday” and even on TV’s “Gilmore Girls” makes it seem like these boys will just fall in love with persuading teenage girls and come out changed men.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news here, but it’s just not going to happen.
It’s a fantasy only appropriate for me and Holden, really. He’s from a book, which means I will never dive into this fake realm of dating a bad boy. Girls in high school need to come to this same conclusion about the boys they pick to date. Just because a guy seems intriguing and dangerous never means he will treat you right, be nice to your parents or talk to your friends. Try picking a “nice guy” for once. Even if movies and entertainment have made that category of males to be boring and weird, changing a boy is never going to work out like girls have it dreamed up in their heads to be. Nice guys will be the ones that your dads will actually appreciate, that will come inside the house rather than honking from the driveway and maybe will make your high school years a little happier.