Popping the question

Prom-goers raise the bar with extreme ‘Promposals’

Gina Deaton | Online Editor

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Promposal (noun): the act of asking someone to prom.

Senior Ethan Keller asked sophomore Taylor Young to prom after investing in several roses and extravagantly decorating her basement. Senior Thomas Zhu asked senior Gabrielle Honda to prom when he dropped her off after taking her out to lunch. According to Honda, Zhu had a simple rather than showy proposal.

“He asked me out to lunch,” Honda said. “So we went to Panera, talked, and spent time together. Then when he dropped me off, he asked me if I would go to prom with him, and so I said yes. So it wasn’t super extravagant or really flashy or anything, but I liked it. I thought it was really nice because we got to spend time getting to know each other a little better.”

According to Young, she didn’t expect anything ostentatious or over-the-top from Keller, but that made it into something she won’t soon forget.

“When I got home and walked inside, there was this rose on my basement door,” Young said. “Then there were roses lining the railing down my stairs and they made this little trail to this table with a giant poster board…he came out of the office in my basement right as ‘Tale as old as Time’ from Beauty and the Beast was playing in the background. It was insane. He walked out with a dozen roses, in a suit, and it was so cute…I didn’t expect anything like it. I don’t know what I was expecting — maybe just a flower, but no, he came out with a dozen roses in a suit.”

According to Zhu, his logic behind the layout of Honda’s promposal was based on her personality.

“I felt like I had a little bit of pressure since a lot of guys are doing that kind of big stuff,” Zhu said. “I thought that maybe I should do that too, but in the end I didn’t [because] I felt like [Honda] wouldn’t like it…I know her pretty well.”

Honda said that Zhu was right on target.

“I didn’t expect anything big,” Honda said. “I think what he did fit really well with me, too, because he knows that I’m not the  kind of person [who likes flashy things]. So I like what he did because it kind of showed that he knows me and he really [cares].”

According to Keller, promposals have definitely been blown out of proportion in recent years.

“I don’t think it should be the biggest deal in the world, but I don’t think it should be on the same level as a marriage proposal — at all — which is what it is [now],” Keller said. “I didn’t think [my promposal] was that big; I kept a $50 budget.”

Young said that boys carry a lot of pressure since promposals have become so blown-up.

“Guys absolutely have a lot of pressure on them,” Young said. “Everybody expects to hear about [the promposal] and they want to know what happened — everyone wants the biggest thing they can get.”

Honda said that the true promposal struggle can be finding a happy medium between memorable and comfortable.

“I like how it makes people go and think outside of the box, and how you have a lot of people doing different things,” Honda said. “And I think it’s good because you get to show your personality as a couple. It can be tough, though, to find that balance between something that is memorable and then something that is you, and comfortable, and not over-the-top.”

According to Young, the proposals go much deeper than the way someone is asked to prom.

“I think [blowing up a promposal] makes it special when it happens like that,” Young said. “It’s definitely something I’ll remember for the rest of my life. But I don’t think it has to be that way — as long as you like the person, and care about them, that’s all that really matters.”